All You Need is Love
I was reading a post on X (Formley Twitter) by Dean Graziosi…
“You’ll go to masterminds all over the world on how to make money, but will you take time to do a weekend retreat on how to have better love in your life?”
I responded with
“Giving love is like the boomerang of life as it comes back 10 fold.
And it’s free!!”
After replying, it made me think a little bit deeply about love and what it really means.
Lots of ideas ran through my mind, one in particular was when I was about 10, I wrote to the Beatles, which my dad swears he posted.
The words in the letter were basically:
Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love
These are the opening lines for the Beatle’s “All You Need Is Love.”. Which was released sometime after I sent my letter.
The song has stood the test of time and is still relevant today, as it was in 1967 when it was released.
In essence, the song means love is the most important thing in life, capable of overcoming any obstacle and uniting people.
Now there are various types of “love.” There are 8 on the last count.
But here’s 5 that should resonate
- Eros: The Greek word for “love and desire.”.
This love is a romantic type of love. It’s characterized by strong physical and emotional attraction.
- Philia: Also known as friendship love, it’s characterized by mutual understanding and goodness found deep in our friendships.
- Agape: Also known as selfless love or unconditional love. It’s about caring for and giving to another person.
People with this love style are deeply committed to their partner’s well-being and happiness
Storge: Also known as family love, this is the love between parents and their children. It’s probably the first love we experience.
What makes you love one thing and dislike or even hate another?
It can be seen when people love their country or sports team it is so ingrained into their hearts they will go to the extremes to show such hatred that they will beat or kill someone with an opposite view.
Science will tell you that love comes from a complex interplay of brain chemicals and hormones, primarily dopamine, oxytocin, and norepinephrine.
These brain chemicals and hormones are released when we have positive interactions with another person.
These positive reactions create feelings of pleasure, bond, and attachment.
Essentially, love is a biological process occurring within the brain, influenced by both our biology and cultural interpretations of love.
Buddhism encourages non-attachment to people or objects, as attachment brings suffering.
Being too attached is what causes our anger to rise when challenged. As in the case of the supporters of a football team who love their team so much, they will fight the supporters of the opposition team.
There is a Buddhist monk who repeats a story before he was ordained where no love existed between his boss and himself, just friction.
Not hatred, just a natural dislike for each other.
This concerned the monk, and he sought counsel from his Buddhist teacher, where I was suggested to start loving his boss in his mind.
He did this consciously to start creating feelings of pure love, like the Greek Philia love.
After a few months, things started to change, and the relationship started to flourish, and they became very good mates.
Nothing had changed physically except one person deciding to change their mind and give love.
In this case, the monk had his mind changed.
All you need is love within the Japanese culture, which lies with the concept of Ikigai.
Kigali, meaning “reason for being or life’s purpose, really emphasizes the importance of our connections with other people.
Having deep, fulfilling relationships based on love and shared values
- Certified Ikigai Coach – Passionate about guiding people to their purpose
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